What Do You Bring? For when you can see the pattern in your relationships but can't explain why you keep creating it

Different people. Same ending. At some point that stops being about them.

You can already see the pattern. You named it. Or you just feel it come back around. Same dynamic, with people who looked nothing alike at the start. What you can't see is your own hand in it.

So this is about what you carry in before the other person says a single word. Not what was done to you. What you brought. Honest questions, no advice. Just the part of this that's actually yours, which is the only part you'll ever get to change.

It won't flatter you. But your fingerprints are already on it, so you might as well look.

It's five questions. Your email below.

When you've answered the one that stopped you, here's where it goes next:

• For where the pattern actually started: What You Inherited
• For who you are in love, not just who you're with: Love & the Real You (journal)